“Most men prefer chasing women, rather than
chasing their dreams, forgetting that their dreams will never wake up one day
to say I LOVE YOU NO MORE” – Muoka
Chibuzor.
In The
Beginning It Was Not So….Janet, in her early days of being a teenager, was so
energetic-lively and she tolerated purity of the spirit, soul and body. She was
brought up from a godly family and she also embraced godly values.
Academically,
she was sound and was always at the top in her class because none of her
energies and focus were tampered with. Coming to her commitment in church, she
had a profound knowledge of the word and she was like the biblical Samuel who
clearly heard God speak.
Most times,
she usually inform her parent about the revelation she got. If it was something
evil, they’ll pray over it to avert its occurrence.
But
unfortunately, when she gained admission to one of the most sought-after
university in Nigeria, University of Lagos, she managed to scale through the
intimidation and pressure being a ‘Jambito’ in Year One but she was unlucky, as
she fell into a non-platonic relationship with John afterwards.
John was one
of those guys who doesn’t believe in having a close walk with God. He goes to
church, was raised by a Christian parent but he wasn’t in Christ. He goes
clubbing, sometimes get drunk and womanize. After all, his justification was
that ‘everyone is doing it’ and he must ‘catchfun’ while in school.
He met Janet
one evening as he was coming back from lecture. And on this this fateful evening
their eyes ran into each other and that’s where the chemistry of their
attraction began. Luckily for John, they were both in the same Faculty but
different departments.
During
combined lectures, they usually bump into each other, exchange pleasantries and
this necessitated their deepened intimacy. Their relationship started on a
clean slate but in Year Three, it nosedived into a destructive relationship.
Janet became
so fond of John. John, being the bad guy he was, although he pretended to be
nice but he became more influenced by his friends and vowed to gamble with her
sexual purity. It all started with a normal hug.
Afterwards,
he lured her into a peck, a kiss and ‘romance’ crept in at the dark corners of
the Amphitheater. Since Janet has now being emotionally attracted to John, she
felt it was love and she doesn’t want to lose him for the fear of ‘husbands are
scarce’; then, she became trapped.
Janet’s CGPA
from Year One to Three was on a 2.1 but as her affection for John grew
intimately, her performance became bad because she could not serve two masters
at a time. Her commitment to God fell drastically and she traded her godly values
for sexual immoralities.
Before she
could know what was happening in the relationship, she lost her virginity to a
campus relationship. She cried her eyes out, she lamented after the deed has
been done. To worsen it, John did not maintain all the promises of “I love
you”, “I’ll be yours”, “and I won’t hurt your feelings” and so on.
Prior, to
their final examination in Year Four, he acted strange to her. He no longer
pick her calls as he used to and failed to make himself available for her. She
blamed herself bitterly but it in the beginning, it was not so….
This is more
than a fictional story, it is a reality that’s played out in the lives of many
young boys and girls who went into relationship in school as opposed to facing
their studies, life and career. In case you don’t know, many relationship didn’t
started the way it has now turned out to be.
You cannot serve two masters at the same time.
But when you
allow ignorance to cloud your sense of judgment, it’ll end up becoming what you
never planned for. Are you in a relationship with someone you think you’re
going to end up marrying and you’re already tolerating immoralities?
Are you
giving your boyfriend or girlfriend more attention than God, your career, your
vocation or future? It’s not bad to be in a relationship when you’re mature
enough to handle what could likely come out of it.
But when you
begin to think he loves you or she’s all you need and you then allow that to
push you into sexual sin, the end of your relationship is determined. You
cannot violate God’s law and go scot-free. Never!
God’s
merciful but breaking the hedge, gives the devil the opportunity to steal, kill
and destroy. But little did many of you know that God’s law protects you from
the devil’s onslaught. Don’t have premarital sex or flee youthful lust is not
said to make you unsociable, it’s only meant to prevent you from getting
exposed to what will destroy you in life.
Don’t
believe in lies told about celibacy. Don’t tolerate boyfriend or girlfriend
relationship when you’re not yet ready for marriage. Discover purpose first
before the need of a partner, otherwise you’ll destroy your life before the
right partner comes.
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