Relationships based on Assumption talks about relationships that are initiated without definitions or boundary, a relationship that is accepted as true or as certain to happen but without proof of whether it would lead to marriage or not.
"Don't make assumptions, find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement you can completely transform your life." - Miguel Angel.
The story below throws more light:
Note: This story was based on fact. Any similarity with events or characters was purely coincidental. The use of pidgin language was frequent in this article.
I received the shock of my life yesterday when a friend of mine accused me of trying to break up with him. Break up ke? Are we even dating?
Then it dawned on me that all those times he came around to hang out with me, drive me to work, home and back, see movies, play and gist, eat out, were because he assumed I was his girlfriend.
So I'm in a relationship without knowing I'm in a relationship??? What a Waawu
I actually felt for him, even in my transfixed state shaa. See innocent me that was just catching fun.
I relayed the story to a colleague and heard a more shocking one. She had become friends with a fine guy and thought him her boyfriend. She would close from work and branch to the market, buy food stuff and go to his house to cook.
After eating in the night, Onku will press small breast and they will knack. Then the next morning, she will go to work from there. This continued for three good years, and Onku didn't propose. He was just chopping free food and knacking free knack.
So one day, she took a step of faith to ask him when he was coming to see her parents.
Guess what?
Onku said; "Parents ke? Boluwatife, you're just like a younger sister to me o. I never saw you in that light. Actually. I'm engaged."
She broke down in tears, but later she had to come to terms with the sting of reality. Onku didn't "Toast" her. They only met at the bank, and from there, their "friendship" blossomed!
It was kinda funny shaa, but I was pained as well. Younger sister ke? He didn't even say "Just a friend". Who da fuck knacks his younger sister?
El Shaddai!!!
You see ehn, there's nothing as dangerous and annoying as an UNDEFINED relationship. It’s crazy! You even get to feel foolish in the end. Never ever you assume you're dating a person. Find the hell out!
Some ladies sef, ordinary "Hello Baby" inside inbox Na wahala o. If the "dropper" is a crush, then it’s finished! They will collect phone number, collect account number, state code, and house address. Before I finish quoting John 11:35, they have travelled to see crush. For their mind, the dream man has arrived.
Abiaa!
And when crush now finishes crushing them like Dangote's Trailer, they will now come out to corrupt the image of feminism. Telling us how wicked men are…
Mtcheew!
I'm not saying you can't catch sparks online o. Noo! I've seen people who met their life partners via this platform. But ehn, use head na. At least be sure the feeling is mutual before anything. Not when you finish typing long letter of love profession, and Onku will now reply: "Kk". Mbaanu! Eeh it’s not like that.
Bottom line:
If you're currently assuming you're in a relationship, it is time to ask "How Far?" Find out what exactly is going on between both of you, especially if it’s running into years.
Stop Assuming! Ask! Some girls think to ask "How far" will make them look desperate and cheap.
Biaa… Aunty, as far as I'm concerned you are already cheap. You cannot be frying stew and shining congo for years, with nothing tangible to show for it. Stop doing as if world people used your sense to exchange recharge card.
By the way, "How Far" Na question, no be proposal.
Ask him; " Onku, are you THE ONE, or should we look for another"?
Stop letting people monopolise your air space for nothing. Stop letting them be a canopy over your life. Don't let them "browse your website" when they don't have intentions of "downloading".
The Earlier you commot them for road, activate your common sense and move on, the better for all of us.
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